HELP! Potty Training Problem: This post is NOT for the squeamish or proper!

This little potty training problem has added a great deal of strain and stress to my two weeks of sickness. It never ceases to amaze me how determined a two year old can be about holding on to their BM's. So, poor, strong willed, little Ella has a problem. And though I recently learned I don't need to take on other people's problems (ha ha) this one cannot be avoided. But alas, I have NO CONTROL of this little person who refuses to go poopy in the toilet, OR in a diaper (which she now altogether refuses at all times), OR EVEN in her underwear! AHHHHHHHH. In the span of 14 days, she has gone twice and both were disastrous.

The first disaster was a suppository (and that was only because of her extreme discomfort.) The second disaster was too much prune juice. Now all she can think of in association with BM is DISASTER! So, I'm asking for any advice. If it's bad advice, I'll flush it. If it sounds moving, I'll probably try it! Do I just relax and wait for disaster number three? Do I try disaster number 1 again? I'm giving disaster number 2 in smaller doses now. And I'm praying like crazy. . . really. I've sang a hundred songs in the bathroom. We've read fifty books. I've recited every Mother Goose poem I know. And all it produces is a good laugh from my little Ella. She just finished day four of no BM. Maybe tomorrow . . . oh please, oh please, oh please!

Makes me wonder how much crap I'm holding on to that stresses everyone out around me!! :-) (Please forgive me if that line was offensive to you. I tend to wonder what the bigger lesson is in every situation. Even potty training problems!)